Love addiction is a pattern of compulsive behavior centered around romantic relationships that causes significant distress in your life. It involves obsessive preoccupation with someone, inability to stop pursuing connection despite harm, neglecting personal needs, and using relationships to avoid difficult emotions. Love addiction shares neurobiological similarities with substance addictions and often stems from attachment wounds. Recovery is absolutely possible with appropriate support.

Common signs include: difficulty trusting partners, fear of abandonment, anxiety when partners need space, tendency to lose yourself in relationships, pattern of choosing unavailable people, or discomfort with emotional intimacy. Most people develop their attachment style in early childhood relationships, but these patterns can absolutely change with awareness and intentional work.

Many people struggling with love addiction or codependency have lost touch with genuine pleasure in their lives. Pleasure-focused work helps you reconnect with embodied joy, desire, and satisfaction—not just in intimate relationships, but in all areas of life. This includes learning to receive pleasure without guilt, identifying what genuinely feels good to you, and building capacity to be present with pleasurable experiences.

This varies based on your goals and patterns. Some clients work with me for 3-6 months to address specific relationship patterns, while others engage in longer-term coaching (6-12+ months) for deeper transformation. We'll discuss timelines during your clarity call and regularly reassess progress.

Absolutely. Victoria has specialized training and experience working with LGBTQ+ individuals navigating love addiction, attachment, and relationship trauma. The coaching approach is fully affirming and addresses the unique contexts that queer people face in relationships, including minority stress, lack of relationship models, and the impact of systemic oppression on attachment.

Coaching works whether you're single, dating, or in a committed relationship. The focus is on developing your relationship with yourself and building skills that will serve you in any relationship context. Many clients find that as they change their patterns, their current relationships either deepen and improve or they gain clarity about whether the relationship is truly serving them.

Yes. All coaching conversations are confidential. The only exceptions are situations where there is imminent danger to yourself or others, or when required by law. Your privacy and trust are essential to the coaching relationship.

First step is to fill out the ‘Request Clarity Call’ form so that we can learn a little more about each other and see if this is the best fit for you!